Cup of tea please

Everyone thinks their friends are the greatest in the world.

I definitely do.

It’s the same as parents who all seem to believe that their baby is unusually clever.

Everyone thinks their friends are the best, and that’s the way it should be, because friends are one of the best parts of life.  They’re all unique and somehow perfect.   

The listener, the drinker, the shopper, the academic - for every mood there's a friend to match. It's unlike anything else, friendship is based on a natural connection and the details are secondary.  If we screened our friends the way we do in relationships the world would be a harsh place:  Imagine if you considered (before committing to a friendship), the other person’s interests, appearance, taste, politics, and ambition?

  

On paper I think a lot of friendships seem a bit mismatched, which is probably because there's no formula or process in place, you never know who will become your friend. Some of your greatest friends in the world will be people you haven't met yet, some of them will be people you've known your entire life.

I think Lesley Arfin put it perfectly when she described her old friend Bobby:

‘Bobby and I disagree; we go for months without talking and our interests have dissipated through the years quite a bit. Yet I still love him the same, maybe even more.. I feel safe around him, but he doesn’t take care of me.  I feel secure because our love for each other, as friends, is unconditional’.

xx